Personal Responsibility is Doing What's in Your Power
You have to assume you have power in order to take personal responsibility
“I don't want to live in the kind of world where we don't look out for each other. Not just the people that are close to us, but anybody who needs a helping hand. I cant change the way anybody else thinks, or what they choose to do, but I can do my bit.”
― charles de lint
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You know what? If you want to make a difference, start where you are. Maybe in your own circle. Start small. I share stories wherever and whenever I can.
If you’re looking to help people, then you must not deprive them of your story. Let me clarify one thing to you - IT’S NOT about your story. IT’S NOT your story that is important. It’s the TRANSFORMATION, YOUR transformation that is important for people to see.
Why? Because it gives them hope. It helps them believe in themselves. That’s what they are looking for - what’s possible for them. And they need to hear it from you. They need to resonate with your words, you message.
So don’t deprive people of your stories. You’re helping them see what’s possible FOR THEM. This would be you looking out for people you may not even know. They could be living on the other side of the planet. But your story has the power to transform someone’s life. You don’t know who’s life you’re changing and touching just by sharing your story.
Depriving them of their transformation is depriving them of hope. Sometimes all people have is a little bit of hope. It’s like an extinguished candle. Your story is the spark, the flame that lights their candle. And brings a bit of light in their world.
I want to live in the kind of world where we look out for each other. The people that are close to us, and anybody who needs a helping hand. I can’t change the way anybody else thinks, or what they choose to do, but I can do my bit.
The last three words in the about quote are important. DO MY BIT. That’s the only part I have power over.
I recently joined a podcast platform called SWELL. I feel compelled to share my thoughts on topics that I’ve personally worked hard on and understand them deeply. Once you join the app, you get invited by people to share your thoughts on relevant topics that interest you. One such topic that I shared my thoughts on was Intimacy. This topic is so close to my heart.
People feel comfortable shedding their clothes. But that’s not real intimacy. Real intimacy is when you are willing to let yourself be seen for who you are without the fear of them rejecting you affecting you.
It asks for you to be vulnerable with yourself before being vulnerable with others. Many relationships fail early on because of this reason. The pretense to be someone in order to be liked is a recipe for relationship failure.
This is why self-love is the deep work that you would choose to do, so that you don’t run away from you. You’re not afraid of you. It demands taking emotional responsibility for yourself.
Meaning you can’t count on other people to make you feel good about yourself. You have to feel good about yourself through that honesty of vulnerability. It’s a gift you must give to yourself.
I’m proud to facilitate yet another online event on May 13. Please find more details and registration link below.
Date: Monday, 13th May, 2024
Time: 8 pm HK/SG/KL | 1 pm UK | 8 am EST
Venue: Online (Registrants will receive the link to join the online event)
Personal Responsibility - How To Be Accountable For Your Actions & Exercise Self-Control (Click this link to register.)
I look forward to being of service to you. If any of this speaks to you, hit reply or share your thoughts in the comments section.
Talk soon. Take care of yourself!