“There is an expiry date on blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction; the moment you are old enough to take the wheel, responsibility lies with you.”
― J.K. Rowling
If you’re new to Self Love Bites, welcome! Feel free to ask me anything. I might create a post about it for all to benefit from. The theme for May is personal responsibility.
Personal responsibility is knowing that the grass is greener where you water it.
It was an honor and my pleasure to serve those who attended my recent event Heal From Childhood Trauma Through Self-Love. Thank you to those of you that came.
Self-love is taking full emotional responsibility for yourself. That was where I had to begin my journey. Or else I would act out of my powerless six year old traumatized self, with no self-control.
A child doesn’t have the ability to regulate themselves unless his/her parents show them how to do it consistently and with patience. But just because I wasn’t taught how to regulate my emotions in childhood, does it give me the liberty, as a grown woman, to continue the damage and pass it on to my child? Where’s the personal responsibility in that?
This was where I had to hit the breaks with my unregulated six-year-old me in the driver’s seat. The “adult me” had to take control of the vehicle of my life - my body, my mind, my emotions, actions and their consequences. Everything!
Happiness is a choice. We have to choose to be happy. Nothing (impermanent) on the outside can bring (permanence) on the inside. What makes us happy is different for each and every one of us. So comparing your journey with other people is going to cause a lot of misery in your life.
I invite you to think of an alternative word - a feeling that want to feel - and then choose that over and over.
For me, that word is Peace. I’m responsible to sustain the peace within me, because that’s what I bring with me no matter where I go, right? The way I go about it is through creativity. Cooking, stitching, baking, writing, whatever calls to me. And connecting with loved ones. Doing these things helps me feel good, calm and peaceful. My peace is my personal responsibility.
In a world where people are looking to blame, take charge of your life by taking personal responsibility. Start where you need it the most. If it’s physically, then change what goes into your body and exercise to feel better. If it’s mentally, then focus on something worth your energy and pour you passion into it. You will surprise yourself and maybe delight others along the way.
I’m proud to facilitate yet another online event on May 13. Please find more details and registration link below.
Date: Monday, 13th May, 2024
Time: 8 pm HK/SG/KL | 1 pm UK | 8 am EST
Venue: Online (Registrants will receive the link to join the online event)
Personal Responsibility - How To Be Accountable For Your Actions & Exercise Self-Control (Click this link to register.)
I look forward to being of service to you. If any of this speaks to you, hit reply or share your thoughts in the comments section.